Flaunt Your Style Without All the Flash
Everyone knows how important the wedding dress is, but mothers of the bride struggle just as much to find the perfect fit! We have all the ins and outs of MOB shopping to ensure you find the best ensemble without any added stress.
1. Do Follow the Dress Code
Dress codes apply to everyone, even someone as important as the MOB. Don’t choose something against the couple’s wishes; decisions like that can cause animosity during an already stressful time.
2. Do Wear Proper Colors
If the couple has a color scheme planned, it’s best to wear something that matches. You can always consult with the bride to ensure your outfit is what she had in mind! The same applies to seasonal colors (stick with graceful florals for spring over a stark black dress).
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3. Do Go Against the Grain
MOBs don’t always need to wear a gown—they can still rock a pantsuit or stunning skirt and top combo that keeps them comfortable throughout the day. Speak with a consultant to figure out some unique options. You never know what’s waiting on the rack.
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4. Do Opt for Fun Patterns
Some mothers opt for traditional muted colors, and while there’s nothing wrong with pastels, patterned outfits look just as good! Spring and summer weddings call for adorable patterns, so don’t be afraid to grab those florals or strut your stuff in abstracts.
5. Do Reach Out to the Groom’s Mother
It’s often a common tradition that the mother of the bride and groom wear matching colors. However, this isn’t always the case. Reach out to the groom’s mother to coordinate outfits and decide what works best for you both.
6. Do Consider the Season
That dress sure looks stunning—but it might not keep you warm during that winter ceremony. Even indoor venues can catch a draft, so keep the season in mind when you comb for the perfect outfit.
7. Do Wear Proper Undergarments
Proper undergarments are just as important for a bride as they are for her mother! If you shop at a bridal boutique, speak with your consultant about which undergarments make the most sense. They may suggest strapless bras or certain fabrics to keep you comfortable.
8. Do Ask for Opinions
Most daughters include their mothers during gown fittings, and mothers should do the same. While you don’t want one person to dictate an entire outfit, it’s still important to get the bride’s opinion.
9. Do Embrace Your Style
As much as you want to blend in with the wedding, you should still incorporate elements of personality. Cute brooches or favorite colors can pay homage to your style while still adhering to any color schemes.
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10. Do Stick With Elegant Options
It’s a daughter’s day to shine, so let her have center stage. MOBs should opt for elegant, classy ensembles over anything too flashy. Keep away from over-accessorizing, loud colors, and overly bold prints.
Now let’s dive into a couple of popular no-nos you should avoid before the big day!
1. Don’t Wear Anything White
This should be a no-brainer, but we’ll say it anyway: don’t wear white to your daughter’s wedding! Unless given explicit permission, it’s best to steer clear of anything similar like cream or off-white as well.
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2. Don’t Ignore Your Daughter’s Wishes
Your daughter has enough stress to worry about, so do both of you a favor and just stick with what she asks. If you truly disagree with something, speak with her and air out concerns in a calm manner without getting defensive. Proper communication opens the door to compromise.
3. Don’t Stick With MOB Outfits
Brides caught onto this pattern a long time ago—when you ask for wedding gowns, you’re charged an arm and a leg. It’s the same for MOB outfits. Don’t limit yourself to one set of options; branch out and ask for dresses that match the season or color you had in mind.
4. Don’t Wait to Shop
Brides and their mothers know the importance of shopping early, but it’s hard to keep track of time amid all the hoopla. Do yourself a favor and shop at least six to eight months in advance. The last thing you want is to scramble for a dress you don’t even like!
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5. Don’t Forget About Alterations
Shopping isn’t just about scoring the perfect outfit. When you hit stores early, you give yourself more time for alterations and deliveries—two things you shouldn’t have to worry about a week before the wedding.
6. Don’t Wear Anything too Flashy
While you should stay true to your style, MOBs should also toe the line between flashy and elegant. Don’t pick anything too extreme (bold colors, loud patterns, inappropriate cuts). If ever you’re in doubt, reach out to the bride for a second opinion.
7. Don’t Forego Accessories
We love a striking neckline as much as the next person but don’t forget about accessories. A great clutch, stunning jewelry, or even the right hair clip adds the perfect dash of flair to any wedding outfit.
8. Don’t Wear Something Uncomfortable
MOBs often scramble during the wedding to ensure everything runs smoothly, which is exactly why you deserve a comfortable ensemble. If you know heels hurt your feet, don’t wear them. If you don’t like the feel of cotton, grab a different fabric. Weddings go well into the night and there’s no reason you should make it hard on yourself!
9. Don’t Do It All Yourself
We know brides like to indulge in hair or makeup artists, but who says you can’t join in? Weddings are a time to pamper yourself, so don’t shy away from professional updos or relaxing in an artist’s chair. It may cost a bit of money, but how often does your daughter get married?
10. Don’t Forget to Enjoy Yourself
With vows exchanged and the bouquet tossed, it’s time to enjoy yourself! You worked hard to find an outfit and make this day as special as it could be—make sure you take of yourself to the same degree.
